Hi, I’m Ilia Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor in Suwanee, Georgia. I wanted to talk to you about marriage therapy. A lot of times once you get married, after a few years, all of the things that you thought were cute and quirky and adorable about your spouse start to become annoyances. You stop giving each other the benefit of the doubt. You start assuming and interpreting a lot of behavior as having had negative intents and negative motives. It almost feels like your friendship is pretty much over and you have no idea how you decided to pick this person. You think it’s a compatibility problem. A lot of couples will tell me they have trouble in communicating. However, I think everybody knows exactly what the other person is going to say at any given time. So, the problem isn’t communicating, but the problem may be listening. So, I work a lot with couples to help each person listen and understand what the other person is saying. I help couples figure out how to do activities that help them rekindle their friendship. And I help each individual person during couples therapy reframe and interpret things more accurately, to make sure that you’re only getting annoyed by an actual annoying behavior and not assigning extra negative motives to your partner. I can also really help individuals who want to work on their marriage at home even if their spouse doesn’t come into therapy. So, I hope you will give that a chance if you do want to see improvements in your relationship. I rely a lot on John Gottman’s work. His books are awesome. His website, his app, they’re all great and I use a lot of his research in my practice. So, let me know if you have any questions or comments.